I love these insights! Here’s something I like to do: Any time I send a connection request on LinkedIn, I always include a short note. Something as simple as “Hi ___! I just listened to you on the XYZ podcast. I'm looking to grow my connections in the hospitality community. Would love to strengthen each other's networks!”. It helps provide context for the connection, and serves as a reference for you when you inevitably wonder “how do I know this person again?” 😊
The mistakes I’ve always made in my life in my company and the homework I’d have to do would be mistakenly adding my ingredients in the wrong amount or having trouble figuring how to do a step that makes me feel misunderstood and when that happens I usually have to start over and try it again and put in the original amount required. All of that definitely pushes me to learn from those mistakes instead of letting them hit curveballs and I keep trying over and over again until I get the hang of it for sure!
I think leading with genuine gratitude is so important. We are all pulled in so many directions, and telling the person from whom you want advice how much you appreciate them considering/responding to emails when they are clearly busy is not only important but, again when genuine, it’s essential. I host a podcast and rarely get guests of your level of influence to respond to appearance requests but my gratitude when they do (always with a no thank you) is genuine and humbling because I know how busy they are.
I've admired your work for years, quietly engaging with your posts, sharing your insights, and cheering from the sidelines. I’ve always appreciated your blend of grace and grit. That’s why today’s piece hit me a little sideways.
It’s a great guide, but it also made me reflect on the many of us who have shown up consistently. We engage, support, signal boost, often without a reply or acknowledgment. Not because we’re owed something, but because the message of reciprocity you write about today doesn’t always feel mutual. Especially from the folks whose success stories we’ve helped amplify.
Funny thing...your marketing team never waves back. Not a comment, not a share, not a "Hey, good luck out there."Sometimes it feels like the “warm intro” advice only flows one way. Those of us still climbing, those of us who remember where we came from, see the value in giving someone a shot, sharing their post, or simply responding to a message with empathy.
So while I absolutely agree with your points on grace, homework, and thoughtful asks, I also believe influence comes with responsibility.
And sometimes, it’s the people with platforms who need the reminder to occasionally look up—and lend a hand without being asked.
Candace - Appreciate the reply or should I say brush-off? I’ll keep showing up with support. Maybe someday the algorithm (or your team) will return the favor. Manifesting mutual energy.
Learning from our mistakes is how we all grow!
I love these insights! Here’s something I like to do: Any time I send a connection request on LinkedIn, I always include a short note. Something as simple as “Hi ___! I just listened to you on the XYZ podcast. I'm looking to grow my connections in the hospitality community. Would love to strengthen each other's networks!”. It helps provide context for the connection, and serves as a reference for you when you inevitably wonder “how do I know this person again?” 😊
The mistakes I’ve always made in my life in my company and the homework I’d have to do would be mistakenly adding my ingredients in the wrong amount or having trouble figuring how to do a step that makes me feel misunderstood and when that happens I usually have to start over and try it again and put in the original amount required. All of that definitely pushes me to learn from those mistakes instead of letting them hit curveballs and I keep trying over and over again until I get the hang of it for sure!
I think leading with genuine gratitude is so important. We are all pulled in so many directions, and telling the person from whom you want advice how much you appreciate them considering/responding to emails when they are clearly busy is not only important but, again when genuine, it’s essential. I host a podcast and rarely get guests of your level of influence to respond to appearance requests but my gratitude when they do (always with a no thank you) is genuine and humbling because I know how busy they are.
I love this. Gratitude is so important and I believe people can feel it!
Hi Candace,
I've admired your work for years, quietly engaging with your posts, sharing your insights, and cheering from the sidelines. I’ve always appreciated your blend of grace and grit. That’s why today’s piece hit me a little sideways.
It’s a great guide, but it also made me reflect on the many of us who have shown up consistently. We engage, support, signal boost, often without a reply or acknowledgment. Not because we’re owed something, but because the message of reciprocity you write about today doesn’t always feel mutual. Especially from the folks whose success stories we’ve helped amplify.
Funny thing...your marketing team never waves back. Not a comment, not a share, not a "Hey, good luck out there."Sometimes it feels like the “warm intro” advice only flows one way. Those of us still climbing, those of us who remember where we came from, see the value in giving someone a shot, sharing their post, or simply responding to a message with empathy.
So while I absolutely agree with your points on grace, homework, and thoughtful asks, I also believe influence comes with responsibility.
And sometimes, it’s the people with platforms who need the reminder to occasionally look up—and lend a hand without being asked.
Warmly,
Laura
I appreciate your point of view. Thank you so much for sharing!
Candace - Appreciate the reply or should I say brush-off? I’ll keep showing up with support. Maybe someday the algorithm (or your team) will return the favor. Manifesting mutual energy.